There is nothing sadder than having to tell a man to hit you harder 🙁
My first time hitting a woman (in that far away land called “the early ‘90s”) she had to tell me to go harder, and it literally killed the relationship. She loved me, but just couldn’t settle for a guy who she had to coax into treating her like a woman. I was crushed, but in retrospect, I don’t blame her at all.
It was a lesson I only needed to learn once.