That, m’dear, is what ya call a “high-class problem”. But life sucks even for the privileged, so the question is worth considering.
I’m repeating myself here, but first, focus your attention on men who are demonstrably smarter than you. It’s not that stupid guys can’t get you off; it’s just that the smarter ones have more varied and less lethal ways to take you on the ride for which you yearn.
Second, remember that it’s a cunt’s job to set the tone of her own degradation. Get naked —physically and emotionally— and give the men you admire a guided tour of your insecurities. Dangle your frayed self-esteem before them and show them how much you deserve to unravel; you can’t expect a decent man to dig down to your level if you don’t show him where you keep the shovels.