how can i be confident in myself and my body?????????? i get a lot of “attention” and compliments but i just dont see it at all and i never feel pretty or good enough and feel like they do it bc they pity me. idk why im even asking u this but u seem like u have an answer to everything so help pls

Here’s a thing you need to understand about people: they’re dicks. Yeah, they can be situationally decent human beings when they’re scared or in love, and there are a few outlier saints who walk among us, but in general… pretty much dicks. Men, women, children, cats… all dicks. Self-centered, myopic, befuddled, belligerent dicks.

So every time you get the sense that the attention coming your way is an artifact of compassion rather than honesty, ask yourself this: what are the chances that some dick knows and cares enough about me to bother paying me a false compliment? How does it profit a dick to pity me?

I believe you’ll find the answers to be “close to non-existent” and “it doesn’t”. Internalize that, and you’re on your way.

Or if that sounds like too much work, you can always send me a few photos and see what I think… I promise not to pity you at all.

Not even a little.