Just a reminder that all the “you’re not a real submissive” talk you see online is pure, uncut bullshit. It’s broad-spectrum gaslighting, not an insight into the human condition.
I mean, look… I personally find the whole brat thing kind of exhausting, but big fucking deal. At worst, that simply means that brattiness is anti-me. Your submissiveness is something inside you that you give to different people in different forms across the course of a lifetime, and you don’t owe the world some standardized expression of it.
Girls are submissive —in the sense of personal identity— if they tell me they are. Girls are submissive —in terms of a relationship— if they’re following the lead of a dominant person, wherever that lead takes them. And girls are submissive —in the dictionary sense, that favorite of sophomoric dipshits everywhere— when they’re obedient and passive. How you choose to balance those perspectives says less about your kinks and more about your interest in and understanding of the inner lives of the human beings around you, as well as your own capacity for processing emotions more complicated than those of a feral boar piglet.
Again, this is not to suggest that we must all find brats adorable and encourage their antics; I’m a fan of compliance, thanks. But being insufficient for one man’s needs says nothing about your sufficiency in general; stop worrying about “doing it wrong”. And discard anyone who needs to invalidate your identity to make his seem real.