Hello 🥰 Do you think a man can be taught or teach himself to be a dom, or does he have to be born with the instinct. I want my bf to dominate me, but I’m afraid he doesn’t have the touch.

He can probably learn how to manipulate and control you; if you show him a diagram of your buttons, he’ll eventually figure out how to push them. And who knows… such a lovingly indulgent pantomime might be all you really need.

Or, if he’s already on board with the basics, but reluctant to go as far as your readership of this blog suggests you’d like to go, he can certainly learn to accept what you are, and what you deserve. Depending on how bright he is —dear God, girls, please don’t fuck men dumber than you— you may need to spend a fair amount of time helping him clear any number of philosophical hurdles, but it can be done.

What you can’t do is teach him to want it. Not for you, but for himself.