I never feel adequate enough for my daddy and it makes my heart hurt. I’m asian, with no ass & no tits, but he masturbates to blondes and redheads who actually have “womanly assets”. I know porn preference doesn’t necessarily = real life, but I’ve even caught him talking to girls like this behind my back before. I’m so devoted to him that I fantasize all the time about him impregnating hotter girls in front of me. I fear that I will never be enough for him. Can you please give me some guidance?

I’m a little hazy on your relationship’s structure, and that makes it a difficult question to address. On the one hand, you’re fantasizing about him knocking up better girls; on the other, you’ve “caught him” and he’s “behind your back”. So are you whining pathetically about your owner doing what he’s entitled to do to a needy freak like you, or are you a confused and concerned little person who’s had an unarticulated, unexamined, and untenable dynamic thrust upon her?

I’ve gotta tell you, based solely on this ask, it feels a little more like the latter than the former… I mean, is he aware that he’s hitting racial identity buttons as well as body image stuff? Is that something you’re capable of enduring on a regular basis? Have you even talked about it in a direct way?

If you were unambiguously all-in on this relationship —fully informed and prepared for what you’re facing— I’d remind you that you don’t have to be everything your man wants… you just have to be indespensible in helping him get it. But as it is, my guidance would be to summon up the courage to sit down and ask him to explain your place in his life, ‘cause at least one of you isn’t sure.