The rest of the date was disastrous. he mocked me than at the same time he told me to seek a psychiatrist ‘for my own good’ as if my sexuality was a mental disorder to be treated. how to answer these preconceptions people have on kinky people?
Well first, a douchenozzle like that doesn’t merit an answer. If he’s mocking and patronizing you on the first date and it isn’t making you wet, then there’s no point in waiting for the check. Call an Uber and make haste.
But if it’s a good-faith interaction with an open-minded person, I’d suggest likening it to free soloing or wingsuiting… an exercise in significant and unnecessary risk for the sake of personal achievement, the opportunity to embrace fear in a controlled way, and the thrill of pushing yourself to an extreme and making it home again in one piece.
The point is that you’re odd, and a thrill-seeker, and just a little brave. The right guy will be excited to get that news across a dinner table.