but my dom says that only his pleasure matters and not mine, is this normal? This is the only thing i ever asked him for because i never orgasm from sex because its too painful for me so i just wanted something that would make me happy too 🙁
To be clear, there’s nothing normal about “only his pleasure matters”. It’s an accurate statement of fact in my relationships, but it’s not normal in any way. It’s a dynamic that demands a lot of a girl, and shouldn’t be casually adopted or peremptorily imposed… you should be thinking it long before he announces it.
From my perspective, this relationship needs a lot of scrutiny and discussion, because the two of you clearly lack a shared understanding of what’s going on. It’s one thing to put his happiness before your own… it’s another to pretend yours doesn’t exist.
So my primary suggestion for you is this: seek your happiness, kid. Even the most degrading, dictatorial, and demented relationship should fulfill you in some way. If you sense something’s missing —not difficult, not scary, not painful… missing— and that absence makes you feel neither wet nor accomplished, then something’s amiss.
Now go turn that frown upside-down.