Is it good to reward someone with gentle loving or rough loving if they massage you after you workout

(submitted by: @Anonymous)

That is an unusually specific scenario.

I’ll say this: the reward thing doesn’t often apply. Rewards are deserved, and my little carnival of misfits seldom deserve much of anything.

So if I want to give them something, it can’t be a reward; it has to be an indulgence.

Or perhaps more accurately: a blessing.