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In my experience (which is admittedly limited to Sir and tumblrs that remind me…

In my experience (which is admittedly limited to Sir and tumblrs that remind me of Sir), Dominant men are *more* likely to be feminist men. They take consent very seriously. They value qualities in women beyond appearance. They accept femininity as something different, but not inferior, to masculinity. And they define masculinity by commitment and compassion, not only strength. That’s feminism, right? But I dunno. I’m just a dumb girl. 😉

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I’m not going to argue with your experience… you know what you’ve seen better than I.

In my experience, dominant men are more likely than vanilla men to be aware of power and control issues within a relationship, and more conscious of the impact of their behavior. That doesn’t necessarily make them feminists. Understanding the mechanics doesn’t make you an ally. It might just make you feminist-adjacent, or it might make you a very clever misogynist.

The point is: don’t give us too much credit at first glance. Philosophically speaking, a lot of us are full-on Monets.