Sometimes I wonder if my dom is psychologically abusive. How to tell the difference between a healthy and an abusive bdsm relationship?
(submitted by: Anonymous)
I’ve likely said all this before, but…
I can’t give you a simple answer, but I can give you some questions to ponder.
Are you on the same team? Does he regularly demonstrate an ability to identify and admit his mistakes? Does he benefit more from you being functional or disabled? Is his anger fleeting or lingering? Is pleasing him challenging or impossible? Is he truly aware you’re human?
Answer those questions, look at them, and figure out what kind of man you’ve just described.