How do you start a conversation about kinks with someone? Also if someone isn’t comfortable with kinks do you always stick to vanilla things or you can help them warm up to it?
Movies are a good way to go… I fell in love with my first serious girlfriend because within fifteen minutes of meeting me, she was describing the rape scene from the original Last House on the Left.
And as a film, 9 ½ Weeks’ primary cultural legacy was the facilitation of real-world conversations between people who were tentatively sniffing one another for kinks.
And for the record, if this person truly isn’t comfortable, that should be respected. The world is full of kinky —or at least kink-friendly— people to enjoy… there’s no need to make a new one.