what advice would you have for someome (male) that is barely getting into the life style?
Well, my first advice would be to find a better source of advice. 😀 You need to walk before you run, and I’m a madman running a marathon backward while juggling chainsaws… nothing about what I am or what I do is normal, and it’s vital you recognize that. Acting like me without being me will likely get you in deeper than you’ll be able to handle any time soon.
But in general… remember to have respect. First for the girl herself, and then, if/when you’ve both progressed beyond that, learn to respect her role and everything it demands of her.
It’s hard being a cunt, and while she won’t always need your mercy, she will always need your understanding.