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Mr. B, do you have any tips on how to get over the fear…

Mr. B, do you have any tips on how to get over the fear of rejection? Even with folks I know and trust, I often have a hard time voicing my desires…needless to say your last post hit a little close to home there. 🥺

I’m the wrong person to ask, silly. My solution to your problem looks like immersion therapy and involves throwing yourself at the brick wall of shame so fucking hard that you fly right through it and into the most blissful, terrifying sort of free-fall.

Also, there’s a piece of trust you don’t yet understand. You think in terms of volition… you trust that those you love won’t intend to hurt you or shame you. But you don’t trust that they will refuse to harm you. That they will make it impossible for you to feel anything but accepted. You trust in their humanity, but not their goodness. Not in their ability to be more than you imagine.

You need faith, child.

You’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel about yourself when you start giving full credit to those who love and contribute to everything you are.