I have been messaging with a guy and he now has some control over me. I have to ask him to pee, send photos x times a day and send edging videos everyday. I like the structure, and he’s very comprehensive, but he takes some time to reply, and when I send him nudes and the edging videos he doesn’t pay much attention to them, it seems. He used to reply with good girl and nothing else but now not even that. I’ve asked if I’m annoying him or burdening him and he told me I’m not, but he just doesn’t seem interested anymore, despite saying he is. What do I do???
(submitted by: Anonymous)
You poor thing. I didnโt even notice this ask until a couple months later. Some girls are just born to wait. ๐
As for what to doโฆ
Does it turn you on to be ignored? Do you feel put in your place when he shows how little you matter? Does his casual disregard for โsome controlโ make you want to give him more? Is being his possession more important than being his obsession?
In short, are you determined to be his girl? Or are you looking to be convinced?
If itโs the former, put your head down and keep swimming upstream. It will probably never get any easier or any deeper, but if you find some joy in the exercise, I can only urge you to beware of bears and continue on your salmony way.
But if itโs the latter? Maybe heโs overwhelmed with the rest of his life and youโve slipped to the back burner. Maybe heโs convinced heโll have time for you some day, and heโs keeping the relationship alive on minimal life support. Or maybe youโre just not worth the effort it would take to break up with you. Whatever the caseโฆ thatโs not what you want for your life. And itโs not going to get better unless he makes it so.
Either way, act accordingly.
