not sure if this is appropriate to ask you but!! i reeaaally wanna try anal (i sort of have before but not properly..? i still want it even though it was slightly scary!) but i’m super anxious about.. um.. brownies? i have a huuuuge thing w hygiene & any ick factors, so even if my partner doesn’t care i’ll pretty much have a panic attack if i see something like that.
i’m aware of enemas/douches & have read a looott about the subject as a whole, but i guess i wanted to hear from someone with experience. plus you feel slightly less anonymous to me..? i’m not sure if that makes any sense but i rly want to get over this irrational fear & id really like ur thoughts on the matter!!
(submitted by: Anonymous)
Suggestions:
- If you’re not making a habit of it —frequent enemas are probably a not-great idea— then yes, empty things out in advance. You’ll be more relaxed, and it will minimize the clean up.
- In my experience, anticipation of a gross thing is dramatically worse than the thing itself. Yeah, maybe you’ll be icked out, or maybe you’ll be thinking more about your gaping asshole and how thoroughly used you feel.
- Try a little immersion therapy… dig up a copy of 2 Girls 1 Cup, and watch it on a loop. After the fifth time, whatever little post-enema flecks of girl-dirt you’ve left on his dick will probably seem as minuscule as they actually are.
- Also, you’re asking me, so I’ll suggest you pause for a moment and remember your place. You can be disgusting for him. Your issues with hygiene are exactly the sort of things a good girl will place upon an altar for him to set aflame. Show him —and yourself— that he is more important than even this most instinctive of revulsions. His smile is worth feeling your stomach churn.
- Also also, butts are dirty. Childbirth happens and you’re shitting on the delivery table. Then your kid shits on you. Then your dog’s shit gets tangled in his hair and you’re down there scrubbing it out. Then your mom needs her ass wiped while she’s recovering from a broken hip. Life, in general, is a pile of shit. And this, right here, the ass-fucking you’re contemplating? This is your one opportunity to have some goddamned fun with it. Treat yourself, girl.