Hello, Mr. Bedtime
First, I want to thank you, sir, for all the work you’ve put in here for us little girls.
I need advice from a real, reasonable, grown-up man, please.
My thoughts alternate between wanting to be a little bitch owned by a decant man and wanting to be a self-sufficient woman who makes all of her own decisions.
(I think I have some kind of ADD, which leaves me not really knowing what I want.)
I think that I only need a man to help me cope with my daily struggles, such as routines and making appointments, and not for the things in bed, you know? Which means I am not really devoted but just lazy and in need of help. I’ve thought about that for the past 10 years and have always wanted it, but when I got men who were really, really strict, I didn’t feel that comfortable. But without being looked after in some way, I feel alone and lost.
I do not really know what to do.I hope you understand what I try to explain. Thought I write you maybe you can give me some words of comfort.
I wish you a lovely evening and thank you in advance for your answer.
(submitted by: Anonymous)
First, you’re welcome.
Second, psychosexual indecision isn’t a sign of ADD… it’s a sign of being human. I’ve known some pretty amazing people who had no fucking clue what they wanted for themselves. And it took me decades to truly figure out what I was meant to be… so take it easy on yourself and give it some time.
Third —and I know this isn’t comforting, but it’s worth considering— might I suggest that you’re not actually looking for a controlling relationship? What you’re describing is a personal assistant with his own space in your closet, not a dominant guy. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
I know it’s tempting, to try and hang a convenient label on your needs, the better to communicate them… but sometimes your life demands a bespoke framework, and the sooner you notice and embrace your specificity, the sooner you’ll find someone who can provide it.
Fourth, I’ll see your wish for a lovely evening and raise you a wish for a lovely life… best of luck to you.