Hello! I’m not sure if you’re the right person to ask but I don’t know who else to ask… I’ve been looking for a man for a long time now and can’t find one. It seems like the only men in my area that are into the same things I’m into are horribly cruel, and NOT in a good way. I live in a religious, rural area so kink is kinda taboo. I feel a strong desire to serve a man but its so hard to find one in person. I guess my question is, how do I go about finding myself a proper daddy? Or will it just sort of happen on its own? (I hope that made even a little bit of sense)
(submitted by: Anonymous)
Well, the first thing you do is stop wasting your time with the locals. Best case scenario, you find one Golden Freak among all the assholes and vanilla wafers, but everyone in the county finds out and your life becomes a living hell of whispers. Worst case scenario, someone lets his misogyny run away with him, and you end up buried under his woodpile.
Finding someone online isn’t always easy, of course. It certainly can be —I’ve been pretty fortunate in that regard over the last 30 years— but the difficulty varies depending on how much you expect and how high you’re aiming. You also have to really force yourself to take your time, because it’s a lot easier to spot an asshole across a dinner table than over wifi.
But you definitely won’t get anywhere just waiting for something to happen. As much as it sometimes looks as if people fall ass-backward into happiness, the reality is that those people have kept themselves open to opportunity and surrounded themselves with a peer group that makes such openness rewarding.