hi, long-time listener, first-time caller. Would love your wisdom on an issue I’m having.
I adore my husband. He is the absolute man of my dreams, and I pinch myself every day. But lately I really love teasing and flirting w other older men. No intention of hooking up. I just think it’s fun, and I like the attention. I love the banter and the looks I get back from them.
Even better when it’s a little inappropriate. My neighbor (also married) is super hot, and we’re clearly attracted to each other. I’m sure he can tell by the way I look at him that I dream of his hands around my throat.
I have zero desire to have an affair, but I really, really like the tension and flirting. It turns me into an animal. I cannot keep my hands off my husband afterwards.
It turns me on when other women hit on my husband and I wish he would just fuck their brains out. But I know most people don’t feel that way about their partners so maybe I’m not grasping how bad my “innocent flirting” really is.
Anyway. Is it really so bad? What can a happily married woman do to feel like a desperate, cock-obsessed, eager little cum slut? I love it.
I would never in a million years sleep with another man. But I love the tease so much it’s to the point I’m tanning in little bikinis all the time & eye fucking my neighbor every time we meet.
Is it really so bad? If:
- it stays at its current level, and…
- your husband knows what you’re doing…
…then of course it isn’t bad. As long as you’re enjoying yourself and making the world a happier place, I hope you get your flirt on every single day. You deserve a medal for your playful contributions to sluttery.
Buuuut… well…
Reading between the lines, I get the sense that hubbie doesn’t know the provenance of his dick’s post-flirtation good fortune. Which seems like a risky thing to withhold from someone who brings you so much pride and happiness… even if he supports the casual exercise of your sexuality, he might have complicated feelings about you bringing that energy directly back to him.
More than that, I’m betting his feelings might be extra-complicated once he notices that your behavior is (slowly) escalating, and that you get particularly turned on when (lightly) violating social norms and being a party to extra-curricular sex. None of that makes a slide into infidelity an inevitability, obviously, but it’s something I’d expect him to interrogate a bit.
Is he aware of how much you thrive on the buildup of tension? It’ll be much easier for him to believe “never in a million years” if he already knows that you’re more into squirming than scoring.
Oh, and one thing to consider… “I wish you’d bang other women when they hit on you” can easily be interpreted to mean “if you’d bang other women, it would give me a license to fuck around”, especially when combined with your enthusiasm for making the neighbors horny. So keep an eye on how those thoughts are interacting in his head. Once you’ve got it all sorted out, you can be the “desperate, cock-obsessed, eager little cum slut” of your dreams.
Which is nice, if you ask me.
I like seeing a woman achieve her goals.