How can I help her know it’s important to me? I’m being very patient since I know she’s nervous. For me it makes me feel a little unwanted when she won’t get naked but I do.
This is such a pure, sweet ask —one which gives me hope for the future of men— and all I can think is “how did you end up asking me?” 😀
Be that as it may, you did, so…
She’s more than nervous, kid. She’s ashamed of something, anything from her body, to her sexuality, to the sheer awkwardness of the situation. Even if it did start out as a petty case of nerves, the lack of momentum over the months has almost certainly given birth to a nasty insecurity. While you feel unwanted, she’s feeling unwantable.
You two need to stop being so damned polite. There’s got to be an uncomfortable conversation… neither of you want to have it, but it’s gotta come. She needs to know how her unexpected behavior has made you feel, that you know that isn’t her intent, and you want to help her feel safe and appreciated.
Then you’ll need to sit still and listen while she tries to explain what’s up, which may be very difficult for her to articulate. And you may learn some things that make you uncomfortable, so remember that in the moment, you’re learning and not judging. Even if you don’t see a quick resolution to the problem, you’re both going to feel a lot better for simply acknowledging it.
Good luck, dude.