My thoughts are that people are going to do what they need to do to feel right; if everyone involved is thoughtful, their perspectives are extensively discussed and reconciled, and they both give a shit, things will work out. It’s just romance by other means, and the same kinds of self-contradictory, hormone-driven, semi-mystical rules apply.
As for the other two questions…
I…
Are you…?
I just…
Yes. Yes I have.
Wow.