Hi can I request (1) official attention please.. what would you say to a girl who feels like she will never be able to find the right person
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One (1) official attention, coming up… we’ll just put this on your tab, miss.
I’d tell her she’s wrong. I’m not saying it’s ever easy, but I firmly believe that the world is huge, and the right opportunities exist for everyone. It’s all a matter of being open to and embracing them when they bump into you.
With that said, if they all seem to go wrong in the end, the problem may be her definition of “right”. My earliest “right” was just “whatever’s familiar”, and as the decades rolled on, I took my observations and insights and grafted them on to that simplistic core. In the process, my “right” became remarkably complex and textured and thoughtful; I added carve-outs and amplifications and subtext, turning it into something very specific and pure… but all I was really doing was shoring up an adolescent’s assumptions about the world.
Undoing all of that was incredibly hard. I had to accept some things about myself that I had long resisted. I had to make peace with the idea that sometimes the people around me can see the best in me better than I can. I had to realize that I’d become something I could never have imagined all those years ago when I first picked a “right”, and a lot of basic questions needed to be asked once more.
Honestly I’m still figuring it out, even now. But just starting made all the difference.