I used to be able to cum very quickly and quite often. My Dom wanted me to learn edging though so it’s something we’ve worked on and I’ve gotten pretty good at it. But now he’s disappointed that I can’t cum as quickly as I use to. I don’t know if I can get that back. My bodies gotten used to waiting and trying to hold it off. He wants both, and I feel like I’m failing him. How do other subs manage this?
(submitted by: Anonymous)
This kind of ask is always hard to answer, because I know what I would be doing in this situation.
It’s possible he’s just a casually greedy dude who isn’t fully aware of the consequences of your conditioning. You need to sit down with him and explain how badly you want to please, but that you’re afraid his lessons have been so deeply internalized that you don’t know how to reverse them. Give him a chance to guide you out of the morass.
But me?
If it were me, your frustration and confusion and fear of disappointment would be the whole point of the exercise. Taking away something you love and then giving it back when you’ve accepted living without it and no longer know what to do with it? That’s good stuff. Watching you twist and turn to unmake yourself, knowing all the while that I’ll just put you through it all again the next time I’m bored? Even better. Showing you that your sexuality and emotions are merely the means to my various ends? The best.
In which case, my advice would be to shut up and do as you’re told. No one cares what your body expects. All that matters is what I expect.