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Do you ever feel guilty for kinks you have? I’m a guy and I’ve…

Do you ever feel guilty for kinks you have? I’m a guy and I’ve got misogyny kinks, rape kinks, stuff like that and sometimes it makes me feel…pretty icky.

I know that it’s okay to find things hot in kink, but not real life, and I know it’s often the case that people like things because they’re morally wrong. But even so, it’s a problematic kink to navigate and sometimes I can’t shake that guilty feeling.

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Stop trying to shake that feeling. Make peace with it. Accept that it’s good for people with power to doubt their use of it from time to time.

And remember your baseline goal is to be a choice she’ll never regret, no matter what you do.

It’s hard to feel guilty for being the man of her dreams.