things are going great with my new boyfriend. i feel like we really connect? how do i let him in that i’m super crazy without scaring him away? i feel like i can’t keep up this front forever
(submitted by: Anonymous)
If he hasn’t had a peek at your crazy yet, then you haven’t really connected, and it’s time you change that. This isn’t the sort of thing you want him to try figuring out on his own.
Bear in mind, you don’t have to dump your purse out all at once. Disclose at a pace that seems to make him comfortable —if he asks questions, give him answers; if he needs to think, let him— and focus on giving him a more authentic experience of you, piece by piece. Don’t just tell him about it… let him catch a glimpse of the crazy every now and then. Let him taste it and see how it makes him feel. He may have a very different understanding of you than you have of yourself, and he’s entitled to his own perspective.