Mr Bedtime!!
Finding your blog in my formative years is part of the reason I’m here today. Thank you. Sorry if this is a long one.
After two years, my long-distance Sir has proposed putting together a contract. We have discussed commitment, expectations, and made verbal agreements in the past. We have our little rituals, but feel the need to solidify our bond, to make us both comfortable to express ourselves in our relationship and not have any crossed wires when we do go through bad moments. I’m already collared so I would like some general advice and to ask a few questions…
Do you set your girls up with contracts? (Sorry if that’s too personal, oops)
Do you personally think there is anything important to outline in a contract or agreement besides what you’d think is typical?
Should subs get the power to veto or negotiate in the early revision stages of a contract, especially when working towards a TPE dynamic?
(submitted by: Anonymous)
Right up front, congrats on your progress! I’m glad to have helped get you where you want to be.
As for your questions:
- Nah, we don’t have contracts. The girls know my domain —everything— and what they’ll do for me— anything. Beyond that, it’s the details that are full of devils… and those are dissected as they become relevant.
- Um… I suppose it’s probably worthwhile to establish how the contract will be reinterpreted and renegotiated down the road. ‘Cause outside of the most basic, wedding-vow-level stuff, most contracts are going to need to evolve along with your lives.
- If you can’t negotiate it, it isn’t a contract… it’s a deed.