I have a habit of falling for men way too old for me. And the age just keeps going up. A 24 year old when i was 19, a 29 year old when i was 22, and now I’m 24 crushing on someone old enough to be my dad.
Idk if it’s me or them or some combination of it all but it makes me a little worried, i don’t want to be dating an 80 year old man when I’m 30.
I suppose at least with you theres no chance we date, just the offhand possibility that my crush on you crushes me. What is life without risk though?
(submitted by: Anonymous)
In terms of pure attraction, I don’t think you have to worry about your tastes skewing toward octogenarians. Barring non-romantic considerations, there’s probably an upper-limit on your urges.
My theory is that a functional age gap involves cultural overlap… for example, I get along well with Millennials and elder Z’ers because the TV/movies they watched while dad ruled the remote from his La-Z-Boy and the music they heard when mom dominated the dial in the car were the shows and songs that were making the biggest impression on adult-me. We took completely different things away from those shared influences, of course, but the point is that they’re shared.
So I expect you’ll max out with men around your dad’s age, give or take a few years… men whose interests are as familiar as they are alien, and thus as comforting as they are challenging.
As for being crushed by your crush… yeah, that’ll happen.
