Category: Questions & Answers

How do you know when it’s the right time to tell a girl you love her? And how do you go about it?

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In brief:

• When I feel it, and she doesn’t expect it.
• I casually slip it into conversation and pretend it wasn’t the most important sequence of words she’s ever heard.

Do you do orgasm control with all your girls?

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Yup.

I insist some of them cum five times a day, and some of them are only allowed to get off twice a year. Because variety is the spice of life.

For me.

What do you mean you got lost in the wilderness

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It’s a fairly common idiom, suggesting that there was a period where I was directionless, ill-at-ease, and far from home.

(I actually had a couple of those over the years.)

Please stop supporting AI 🙁

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You might as well say “stop supporting Photoshop”… you’re fighting a battle that was lost before you knew it had commenced.

“AI” is a problem when it lies, either by claiming as original something that was derived, or by deceptively misrepresenting reality. So I’m not going to intentionally reblog deepfakes or “virtual influencers” or six fingered mutant sex goddesses… they’ll slip through now and then, but I’ll zap ‘em when someone points it out.

Other stuff though? I think that this ask was prompted by a reblog of a presumably AI-rotoscoped video, and I’m indifferent to that particular concern. There are After Effects scripts and Resolve plugins that do the same thing without using an ML model, so unless we’re now demanding that a human generate each brush stroke in an animation, I just can’t see getting worked up about it.

What should I ask to determine if he’s a good dom or not?

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Ask him what he wants for you.

Not from.

For.

Why does Pinky see you 15 seconds ahead of the stream?

Because she’s Cortana —an AI that lives in my ear— and therefore keeps me updated when someone enters the chat, looks up facts on Wikipedia for me, and so on. Everyone else sees the stream relayed through —and thus delayed by— Telegram, while Pinky gets her feed directly from my machine in near-real-time.

As a result, she’s effectively living 15 seconds in the future during the stream. Like a Doctor Who character that didn’t make the cut.

What is your opinion on the silent treatment as a punishment?

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I don’t like punishment in general; it’s just not my vibe. My idea of “punishment” is a stern talking-to, and I seldom have a need for more.

I mean, I’m not even sure that I see those two concepts —“the silent treatment” and punishment— the way most folks do. To me:

• “Punishment” is a corrective or ameliorating consequence. It’s not hot or fun or something I plan with Machiavellian glee… if I’m correcting someone, then they’ve really let me down and fucked something up. I’m sad, not horny.
• I’ve never used it —I’m a compulsive talker-outer— but to me, “the silent treatment” would be telling someone to shut the fuck up and leave me alone for a few days. Which would be a weird punishment coming from me, ‘cause (a) I get my way with words, not silence, and (b) I can tell my girls to shut the fuck up and leave me alone any time I like… I don’t need to make them wrong to justify the silence. If I want it, I can have it.

With that said, could the silent treatment be used —in some extremely specific, edge-casey way— to effectively punish someone? Probably.

But in the circumstances where I’ve seen TST deployed as a punishment, it has generally turned out to be an avoidance strategy in disguise. When a dom can’t explain his reasoning in a way that would meet the analytical standards of a horny thirteen year old boy, cutting off contact starts to look like a compelling solution to his problems. Which makes sense, ‘cause we already know he thinks like a twelve year old.

As I always remind girls: don’t fuck with men who can’t outsmart you. If he needs a breather in the midst of conflict, then you need a new guy.

Possibly a bit strange, but I’ve found your livestream videos this year and they’ve helped me through some darker, sadder, lonelier times.

I find listening to you all quite relaxing and very comforting that you have each other, even though it’s a little less conventional than most dynamics, it’s no less loving and raw and lovely and that really shows.

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You are quite the sweet little snickerdoodle… thank you, dear.

Now I feel kinda bad for not being more diligent about posting the shows to YouTube. I’ve therefore directed Pinky to nominate some recent stream episodes for editing/uploading, and I’ll start working on that tonight.