Category: Questions & Answers

Good Afternoon Mr. Bedtime. I have.. well a silly question. I guess something that I feel ashamed about.

Is it wrong of me to want whoever owns me to put restrictions on what I can eat, or if I am allowed to eat at all that day? And control/track my exercise? I like knowing I am on track to be better/prettier for them because they control me. Pointing out flaws/insecurities and pinching/grabbing the icky parts I need to work on. And also the thought of being weak/low energy so I can’t try to fight back when they hurt me if I wanted to🥰 It feels wrong to want this. The psychological torment from someone I deeply love, knowing I have no immediate escape from it. Constant reminders of seeing the girls that turn them on and noticing they are the complete opposite of me. I don’t know what is wrong with me that I think about this and even touch to it..

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Is it wrong? Not necessarily, but potentially. It’s all about you, really… how well do you know that bitch?

The sort of relationship she desires is going to look bizarre to outsiders, but all that matters is how it makes her feel. As specified, it’s going to hurt her a lot, but she’s the kind of girl who always finds a way to hurt a lot… in this scenario, she’s at least hurting in predictable ways, at rational intensities, for reasonable periods, under the emotional lash of someone who is invested in her well-being. The goal isn’t not-hurting… the goal is to feel contained, sustained, and accepted. To feel more good than bad, and more meaningful than pointless.

So does she know that “better” can be measured in miles or microns, and the scale she uses will define how she regards herself as both a woman and a possession?

Does she recognize that effort is progress? Yes, Ghost of John Wooden, I agree we must not mistake activity for achievement, but activity is evidence of passion, and a passion that brings joy to others is love. If the only thing she does is bring more love into the world, then progress has been made. The day has not been wasted, and her service has served a purpose.

Does she realize that above all else, she must honor the most basic principle: “Protect the Property”? That she must always love him more than she loathes herself? That his claim to her supersedes her disdain for her?

And she needs to ask herself some questions. Does she yearn for this because she’s wants to grow, or because she wants to wither? Does she seek discipline or destruction? Is she looking to be molded or eroded?

But back to you…

I should point out that “whoever owns me” can be seen two ways. For example, do you mean the bar for ownership is super-high because you want to give him the most profound sort of control over your life? Or do you mean that you’re dying to throw all of this at the first man who’ll pick up the baton? My estimation of “wrongness” would vary greatly based upon how such a comment is interpreted.

hi, long-time listener, first-time caller. Would love your wisdom on an issue I’m having.

I adore my husband. He is the absolute man of my dreams, and I pinch myself every day. But lately I really love teasing and flirting w other older men. No intention of hooking up. I just think it’s fun, and I like the attention. I love the banter and the looks I get back from them.

Even better when it’s a little inappropriate. My neighbor (also married) is super hot, and we’re clearly attracted to each other. I’m sure he can tell by the way I look at him that I dream of his hands around my throat.

I have zero desire to have an affair, but I really, really like the tension and flirting. It turns me into an animal. I cannot keep my hands off my husband afterwards.

It turns me on when other women hit on my husband and I wish he would just fuck their brains out. But I know most people don’t feel that way about their partners so maybe I’m not grasping how bad my “innocent flirting” really is.

Anyway. Is it really so bad? What can a happily married woman do to feel like a desperate, cock-obsessed, eager little cum slut? I love it.

I would never in a million years sleep with another man. But I love the tease so much it’s to the point I’m tanning in little bikinis all the time & eye fucking my neighbor every time we meet.

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Is it really so bad? If:

1. it stays at its current level, and…
2. your husband knows what you’re doing…

…then of course it isn’t bad. As long as you’re enjoying yourself and making the world a happier place, I hope you get your flirt on every single day. You deserve a medal for your playful contributions to sluttery.

Buuuut… well…

Reading between the lines, I get the sense that hubbie doesn’t know the provenance of his dick’s post-flirtation good fortune. Which seems like a risky thing to withhold from someone who brings you so much pride and happiness… even if he supports the casual exercise of your sexuality, he might have complicated feelings about you bringing that energy directly back to him.

More than that, I’m betting his feelings might be extra-complicated once he notices that your behavior is (slowly) escalating, and that you get particularly turned on when (lightly) violating social norms and being a party to extra-curricular sex. None of that makes a slide into infidelity an inevitability, obviously, but it’s something I’d expect him to interrogate a bit.

Is he aware of how much you thrive on the buildup of tension? It’ll be much easier for him to believe “never in a million years” if he already knows that you’re more into squirming than scoring.

Oh, and one thing to consider… “I wish you’d bang other women when they hit on you” can easily be interpreted to mean “if you’d bang other women, it would give me a license to fuck around”, especially when combined with your enthusiasm for making the neighbors horny. So keep an eye on how those thoughts are interacting in his head. Once you’ve got it all sorted out, you can be the “desperate, cock-obsessed, eager little cum slut” of your dreams.

Which is nice, if you ask me.

I like seeing a woman achieve her goals.

Would you own a junkie? Is it okay for the “brokeness” to be trying to stay sober? 🙁

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Hard pass. I have a great deal of unpleasant experience with opioid, methamphetamine, and alcohol addicts… I have no room for that chaos in my life.

Potheads are welcome, though.

I’m the girl with the boyfriend who was debating cheating. I literally read your response the night I got home from doing it. I feel horrible but I feel most horrible that I would do it again. I’m not because I know it’s wrong but I want to. What is wrong with me? I feel like a monster. Do I tell my boyfriend? Do I just forget it and pretend it never happened? Please tell me what to do. I’m so sorry.

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Thoughts:

• Is what you did with your ex a vital part of your sexuality? If it is, you’re not doing anyone a favor by trying to bury it and pretend that the hunger doesn’t exist. The lies you tell yourself are even more damaging than the ones you tell others… you can’t learn from something you’re trying to forget.
• In your narrative, you seem to be “horrible” and “wrong” a lot. Have you considered that maybe you’re not horrible… maybe you’re just different? And maybe your fundamental sexual and romantic drives can be “right”, even on those occasions when your repression and impulsivity have rendered your behavior “wrong”?
• If you don’t want to hurt him with the truth, hey, that’s noble! But it also means you need to break up with him. That’s the basic deal here: you can keep him but confess your trespass, or you can lose him and hold your tongue. You don’t get to turn your fuck-up into a win for you… if you want to keep him, you’d better earn it, and he’d better be worth it.
• You’re a kinky closet-case, not a monster.

What. What is the issue with Firefox, if you care to share?

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Even when I used it as a daily-driver, I’ve always disliked Firefox. Being able to extensively customize the UI made up for many faults, but it stayed clunky even as the Chromium browsers roared ahead in performance and rendering hegemony.

(Yes, Chrome is now enshittified to such an extent that it’s a giant performance hog, too. But it was once a lean rendering machine.)

With that said, it’s not bad. It’s just a weird choice for someone to make in the 2020s.

Not as weird as Opera, but still… weird.

really should be studying for my midterms instead of perusing your tags 🤦‍♀️

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A clever girl knows that she can’t properly feed her mind if she doesn’t indulge her soul and edge her cunt.

You’re welcome.

Is blossom gonna eat your ass ?

She already has, a little.

Tentatively.

Like a puppy seeing its reflection for the first time.

miss u

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I’ve used momentum to carry me through the last two years of bullshit, but the gravity of misfortune will always have its way. So now I find myself enduring a period of emotional exhaustion that is both unwelcome and overdue.

I’ll shake it off. Hopefully next month’s Gathering will help. It’s a round-trip road-trip sandwiching nine days of etouffée and crying, giggling girls… if that doesn’t cheer me the fuck up, nothing will.

Would you own girls who are related to each other (sisters or mother and daughter) If both wanted?

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But of course!

I would also own a hobbit and teach it to fuck an ent.

I would lock Illyana Rasputin and Jean Grey in the M’Kraan Crystal and watch them try to sexily out-evil one another.

Given a Time Machine, a few hundred bucks, and a Depression-era economy, I would buy both Park Place and the Atlantic City boardwalk, then paint everything blue.

Now… do you have any other nonsense fantasies in need of validation?

I’m sorry if you’ve already answered this, but would you shame a girl for squirting? And, if so, how?

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I mean, in a controlled environment, when I’m in hazmat gear, and a meticulous cleaning crew is on standby like Harvey Keitel in Pulp Fiction…?

Maybe a little.