Why do you think BDSM communities are so politically schizophrenic? I feel like there’s no other community I’ve ever been a part of where people were so reliably either hard left anarchists and communists or right wing nuts who have really bought into the male supremacy fantasy they jerk off to. I just don’t know a lot of boring kinky liberals – I think the closest you get these days is people who came to it via sex positivity and have been kind of living under a rock for most of the last decade.

Like it’s something I think about a lot as a woman who gets off on the misogyny thing. It always feels like a gamble whether I want to check the profiles of the people whose posts I masturbate to because they’re as likely to be a Real Patriarch Patriot as they are to just acknowledge this is all a weird sex thing.

And I’m not throwing stones here, I’m the ancom stereotype, it’s just this divide feels kinda unique IME.

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The intersection of sex and power is a place lots of people want to visit, no matter where they’re coming from. It’s going to attract people who embrace it unironically, and people who come at it from a place of fascinated revulsion. And the mere existence of those two groups will inevitably inflame the passions of those at the opposite extreme… just sharing a common space arouses the lot of them in ways they probably don’t want to consider too much.

Speaking as a boring kinky liberal, I think you’re on to something with the sex-positivity comment. I got here via third-wave feminism, and while I live above-ground almost 100% of the time, nothing that’s happened in the last decade has led me to switch horses… I’ve had to re-engineer and tweak my existing philosophy over the years, but I’ve yet to see anything that would make me abandon it. There are probably quite a few of us still hanging around, although in this context, we’re largely indistinguishable from the post-Fleabag, “disassociative feminism” crowd.

I don’t see a ton of the Real Patriarch Patriot stuff ‘cause I block ‘em as soon as they follow me, thus minimizing my reach into that communal subset. I don’t mind the “this is for me, not all women” tradwife crowd, or even kinky konservatism in general… just the angry, entitled types who think the world must be saved from women with nose rings and a relative handful of people who like fucking with the concept of gender.

Dear iPadOS: I have 8GBs of RAM and an M1. When I close the iPad and return to it five minutes later, the 500 word post I’ve 90% completed should still be sitting there in Safari. It should not trigger a page refresh and wipe out my work. And if it must, then by the hoary hosts of Hoggoth, why aren’t you auto-saving drafts, Tumblr?

Fucking tinkertoy website, half-assed fucking OS, grumble mumble bitch moan…

Please please tell me you have seen Poor Things!!!

Please please tell me you have seen Poor Things!!!

We watched it on the stream a little over a week ago.

It doesn’t really have anything new to say about the Travails of An Infantilized Woman In A Man’s World, but it’s gorgeous, well-performed, funny, and entertainingly written.

Also, Emma Stone clearly wanted to document her goods before they’re past their sell-by date. (Good for you, Emma.)

Are you a spiritual person?

Are you a spiritual person?

I dunno… the simple answer is “no”. The more accurate answer is “sort of, vaguely”.

I don’t believe in omniscient, non-corporeal entities logging my sins, the influence of celestial bodies on human lives, and so on. None of the stuff that people typically think of as “spiritual” appeals to me.

With that said, I’ve witnessed the power of words and their ability to travel across space and time, to upend fates and alter dreams, to start and end wars… to both convey and comprise love. Mine isn’t an otherworldly spirituality… it’s more earthy than that, founded in art and empathy.

Creation is the only spirit I need.

What is the issue if the girl is a republican? We are usually more…

What is the issue if the girl is a republican? We are usually more submissive than democrats. Would you rather your girl be a communist?

Clearly, someone wasn’t reading this blog in 2016… I mean, one of my nastiest stories is entitled Election Night Theater. With that said…

  • Alas, there’s far more than a single issue. But if I had to pick a primary one…? Such a girl would be unlikely to share any of my priorities. Which isn’t automatically a problem, since being with me means her priorities will be changing anyway… but that would demand a lot of change.
  • I’ve owned an apolitical or hybridized —I hesitate to say centrist— girl or two, and it’s worked fine. An actual conservative —an endangered species— would have a very small chance with me, and a —little “L”— libertarian would have a 50-50 shot… but someone self-identifying as Republican would be setting herself up for an epic effort in philosophical mountaineering.
  • Heh. Let’s just say that this “usually more submissive” thing has not been even remotely true in my experience. But then, I’ve never been in the market for a tradwife… my findings might be different if I viewed domesticity as a fundamental aspect of submission.
  • If my only choices are MAGA or Marxist, then yeah, I’ll take the Marxist every time. But in reality, I’d prefer to tick “none of the above”.