… Read the rest “I just had an encounter with someone, who said that a lot of girls don’t want aftercare…”…(because they like feeling used) and me being disappointed in someone and not feeling well, because they didn’t provide aftercare is my fault alone.
While I can see that it’s partially my fault, because we didn’t talk about aftercare beforehand (it was my very first bdsm encounter and I didn’t have a clue.
Tag: advice
The other night I walked home from work because my car broke down, I didn’t live far, about 5 miles or so…
… Read the rest “The other night I walked home from work because my car broke down, I didn’t live far, about 5 miles or so…”It was a little late when I got home, my boyfriend was very upset and he seemed even more upset to discover I walked all that way instead of calling him, I didn’t want to bother him and I could handle it by myself.
I went to hug a girl and she grabbed my hand and shook it. what does it mean??
It means she doesn’t want to hug you. And until she trusts you enough to tell you more, that’s all you need to know.
As far as I’m concerned, automatic hugging has always been part stupid, part sleazy. Seinfeld told us to “get off the ‘kiss hello’ program” almost 30 years ago, and I thiink it’s time the obligatory hug followed it into the dustbin of history. … Read the rest “I went to hug a girl and she grabbed my hand and shook it. what does it mean??”
what do I do if my girl cheats on me with a famous guy and justifies it by saying that it was a “once-in-a-lifetime opportunity” and anyone would’ve done it?
I dunno… see, it’s all a matter of your dignity. And it’s 2021; you could be talking about some dipshit like Logan Paul.
If by “famous” you mean your girl tripped and fell on Alexander Skarsgard’s dick, your only question should be whether or not she stuck the landing.… Read the rest “what do I do if my girl cheats on me with a famous guy and justifies it by saying that it was a “once-in-a-lifetime opportunity” and anyone would’ve done it?”
I met my Dom over the internet and have since met and hung out with them a few times. But…
… Read the rest “I met my Dom over the internet and have since met and hung out with them a few times. But…”…in the beginning I gave them a textnow number. I feel safe and comfy with them but kinda scared they wouldn’t understand why I gave them that number instead of my real number (based on past experiences)
How should I bring this up?
Hi i saw that you answer advice and was wondering how you initiate sex with someone for the first time?? fyi im a male in a new relationship
For the record, I feel the internet has failed society if earnest young men have to seek advice from me. That I seem like a relatively reasonable source of input is sad as hell.
But onward…
- Cultivate a relationship where she knows that you’re interested in how your actions are received.
Do you believe in love languages?
I feel that my Dom and I show affection in very different ways and sometimes I’m left feeling like I need them to be more obvious about the fact they care? Living in different states adds to this.
Do I believe that different kinds of people experience and express affection in specific ways that may seem foreign, mystifying, or otherwise unsatisfying to the uninitiated?… Read the rest “Do you believe in love languages?”
Do you struggle with comparing yourself to others? How do I stop it?
Not in a “oh I wish I was more like that” way… it’s never aspirational. I seldom find myself lamenting what I’m not.
When I compare myself, it’s usually to toxic shitbags who share superficial characteristics or behaviors with me… and the comparison is made so I can figure out how to be not-them.… Read the rest “Do you struggle with comparing yourself to others? How do I stop it?”
Unfortunately, my boyfriend is upset because I never have orgasms during sex…
I’m 20 and I’ve only had 1 guy before him. I never had an orgasm with anyone and I don’t know why. I feel like he’s blaming me for it.
Barring some unusual malady or a bad interaction between your libido and your meds, the most likely reason you’re not cumming is that neither of you know what you’re doing.… Read the rest “Unfortunately, my boyfriend is upset because I never have orgasms during sex…”
My boyfriend’s last hookup was with a girl who actively requested anal sex from him…
… Read the rest “My boyfriend’s last hookup was with a girl who actively requested anal sex from him…”He says that she could cum from him cumming in her ass. I’ve only done anal twice before (with the same person), and he spent several sessions working up to it (fingers, then toys). Once I got past the initial twinge of pain/discomfort, I enjoyed the feeling, and I am not averse to trying it again with my current boyfriend.