My practical advice is simple: get used to it.
One of the first warnings I give anyone becoming close to me is: “if this has to end, we’ll end it in a grown-up and reasonable fashion— but for you, it’s not going to be over when it ends.”… Read the rest “do you have any advice on getting over men like you?”
Figure out in advance where to procure emergency contraceptives.
Be very sure he’s a rational adult.
Stay hydrated tomorrow.
… Read the rest “i told a guy i liked i’m a masochistic sub. ‘so how’s your relationship with your father?’ he asked, smiling…”The rest of the date was disastrous. he mocked me than at the same time he told me to seek a psychiatrist ‘for my own good’ as if my sexuality was a mental disorder to be treated. how to answer these preconceptions people have on kinky people?
How can I help her know it’s important to me? I’m being very patient since I know she’s nervous. For me it makes me feel a little unwanted when she won’t get naked but I do.
This is such a pure, sweet ask —one which gives me hope for the future of men— and all I can think is “how did you end up asking me?… Read the rest “How do i talk to my self conscious girlfriend about taking her clothes off during sex after 6 months?”
Is such a use of your safeword bad? No. But I think you might be using it badly.
If you truly think there’s a chance your partner is going to ignore a safeword, do not fuck with him. A safeword will do absolutely nothing to protect you from cruel intentions or indifference… it will only stop someone who already respects your safety and autonomy. … Read the rest “is using your safeword with your partner, to see if they would actually stop abusive? or bad?”
Don’t be a harassing predator; actively think about a woman and how she feels about your behavior. It’s really that simple.
That girl you want to be with? Flirt with her, *for* her. Not for your buddies, for your dad, or for your dick.… Read the rest “How do I deal with the hesitancy to flirt with women due to the trending idea that women have of men as being harassing/predatorial”
… Read the rest “Hi. My Daddy knows that male shouting is very scary & sometimes triggering for me…”…due to my past experiences of shouting leading to a beating. We have had this discussion previously as he has shouted at me twice previously. So last night he shouted at me (for the third time in our 2 year relationship), when I laughingly said no to turning on the lamp.
… Read the rest “My bf and I were having sex, and we were trying a different position…”…that was a bit too intense for me. I tolerated is for as long as I could but when he got closer he was going faster and it hurt so I told him to stop and he said he was really close so I said our safe word(that we use for kinkier stuff) and he said “just hold on” and finished about 5 seconds after.
Okay, see, the tricky thing about these questions is that I don’t know where you’re coming from. What does “daddy” mean? Is this your soft, snuggly dom who normally slaps your behind and gets you off, who suddenly turns violent and angry in the heat of the moment?… Read the rest “my Daddy kept throwing me on the bed and covering my mouth during an argument. he raised his fist a couple times but didn’t hit me, he apologized after. he has done this several times. what should i do?”
Kiddo, why are you terrified he’ll leave you?
Someone assaulted you and then preemptively smeared you to put you on the defensive… that’s Acquaintance Rape 101, and you should be confident your man is smart enough to see that. You should be able to remind him of deviations in your behavior since the assault, and know that he was paying attention.… Read the rest “How can I tell my boyfriend I was raped? The male who raped me told my boyfriend I cheated and I denied anything ever happened, but I want to tell him what really happened, but I’m terrified he will leave me.”
