Tag: advice

Soo. I’m having a hard time being rougher with my SO. She likes being slapped and such. Ive only ever purposely hit a female once and it was well deserved. I can kinda playfully like tap her with my palm. But idk I’m having a hard time actually harming her?

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Easiest way to explain healthy BDSM to a vanilla person who thinks it’s wrong?

It’s scary and counterintuitive to jump out of a plane. Most people would never consider it, and can’t understand why anyone would. It goes against everything they believe about fear and danger and gravity.… Read the rest “Easiest way to explain healthy BDSM to a vanilla person who thinks it’s wrong?”

what advice would you have for someome (male) that is barely getting into the life style?

Well, my first advice would be to find a better source of advice. 😀 You need to walk before you run, and I’m a madman running a marathon backward while juggling chainsaws… nothing about what I am or what I do is normal, and it’s vital you recognize that.… Read the rest “what advice would you have for someome (male) that is barely getting into the…”

might be a dumb question but I’m a 23 y/o bedroom sub w/ a lovely bf. Thing is, I have bad knees due to my weight (I want to work on losing) and my dom loves having me as his pet, so he often likes to walk me on all fours.

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I want to do anal with my boyfriend but his dick is really big so I’m not sure how he’s going to fit, as it hurts when he slides a finger in. We’ve tried lube, getting me to relax/really horny but it just won’t work.

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How would you educate someone about D/s dynamics and BDSM to potentially get them on board and giving it a go. I’ve tried talking to my husband about it multiple times but he’s closed minded and thinks it’s a bunch of guys with anger issues ‘smacking around’ girls with daddy issues.

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In your opinion/experience, should sex be avoided to practice or focus on aftercare?

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Avoid it? Sex can be aftercare.

Seriously, y’all have got some really weird, theatrical ideas of what constitutes “aftercare”. Many of you seem to think it’s this pampering, cooing, coddling process that is somehow the complete opposite of kinky fuckery.… Read the rest “In your opinion/experience, should sex be avoided to practice or focus on aftercare?”

More of a vent than an ask but I’d love to hear your input if you have one

There’s this guy that is pursuing me for a while now, but I don’t know how I feel about him. I said exactly that, and he told me it was fine, but he keeps pushing and I’m still confused and now he seems to be getting frustrated and I don’t know what to do.

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What’s the best way a girl should beg a man to fuck her?

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Start hours before he’s ever taken his cock out. Beg for it before dinner, during dinner, and on the way home. Beg for it when a pretty girl walks by and you know he’s thinking about her.… Read the rest “What’s the best way a girl should beg a man to fuck her?”

How would you recommend protecting ones personal information, and staying fairly anonymous in a setting when you’re trying to get to know someone online, during the beginning stages when you don’t know if you can really trust the person with any type of personal information or access to you?

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