The second question concerns me more than the first.
Depending on what kind of kink you’re into, “too far” can be an easy line to cross. In some relationships, it’s even expected… part of the emotional budget is set aside for just such an eventuality.… Read the rest “what do you do if your dom goes too far? what is the best way to talk to them”
Learn to listen. Not for a list of keywords that trigger pre-defined soundbites in your head, nor to parrot her nonsense back at her. Listen for the connections. Connections between disparate parts of her life, and between aspects of her life and aspects of your own.… Read the rest “Do you have any tips or advice for building self confidence in my own ability as a Dominant or is it a case of practice makes perfect?”
… Read the rest “How do I stop making myself an “equal” to my daddy when I’m not.”How do I stop making myself an “equal” to my daddy when I’m not. I know I’m not his equal, I already feel like he has taken everything from me and made it his. I know I live to serve him.
… Read the rest “About a month ago, a man I’d been in a sort of D/s relationship with for 3 months raped me…”I didn’t realize until after the assault, but he’d been really emotionally abusive and disrespectful of my consent throughout the entire relationship.
But I had been convinced our dynamic was good. I feel like I’m incapable of discerning gold from shit right now.
… Read the rest “So this guy I’m talking to is very kind, but he hates my stomach and it hurts my feelings…”Whenever we have sex he has me cover it up with a shirt or sheet or something. He asked me if I would go on a diet for him… I dunno, I said yes because he’s a nice guy but I didn’t really eat bad before.
… Read the rest “Any advice or words of wisdom for an overweight girl with a plethora of food issues…”…wanting to desperately get into shape to be a better submissive? I swear – I have all the motivation at one moment and lose it all the next. I admire you and would love to have something I could reference when I am struggling.
A week into me agreeing to not cum for a month, I accidentally came once but I never told him and now a month’s gone by and he’s super proud of me but I know I don’t deserve it😖😖😖 I want to come clean but I’m scared and he’s so happy 🙁
You know, genuine contrition can be pleasing in its own way, particularly when it’s volunteered.… Read the rest “I recently got into a relationship with a guy who’s into orgasm denial…”
…or if he’s genuinely trying to implement damage to your mind, control you for the wrong reasons and he’s an abusive person?
There’s no single, simple answer to that, particularly because some guys are really good at being shitty. But I can give you a group of questions to ask yourself, and who knows, you might find clarity in the aggregate.… Read the rest “How can you tell if a guy is just playing with you and being controlling for kink etc…”
… Read the rest “I am a type of girl who is really into adventuresports, motorcycles, mountainbiking, etc.…”…but at the same time I also have this need to submit. is there anything wrong with it? because my Daddy doesn’t like me doing those things.. in the name of safety. not feeling thrilled makes me really sad and grumpy.
but my dom says that only his pleasure matters and not mine, is this normal? This is the only thing i ever asked him for because i never orgasm from sex because its too painful for me so i just wanted something that would make me happy too 🙁
To be clear, there’s nothing normal about “only his pleasure matters”.… Read the rest “I want to get my pussy eaten and i do everything my dom asks me to and do even more than what was asked to please him…”
