Tag: Anonymous

promise i’m asking this in good faith, but does engaging in this kink ever feel like encouraging unhealthy behavior…

…and if so, how do you find balance with that? are there any indicators you look for as to when it’s time to step back or stop engaging in a particular kink with someone? turning your pain into pleasure can be a fantastic coping mechanism, but it can also reinforce some bad ideas here and there (i’ve certainly had my fair share of kinks that started to make things worse/harder to deal with).

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I keep re-typing what I want to say but it just ends up being a stupid, rambling mess no matter what I do so I’ll just keep it sweet and omit trivial details…

I stumbled across your blog a year or so ago before even making an account and I remember spending the entirety of that day going through your posts. I had forgotten about your blog when I made an account on here recently, but you liked a post of mine last night and I instantly recognized the username.

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How do I deal with the hesitancy to flirt with women due to the trending idea that women have of men as being harassing/predatorial

Don’t be a harassing predator; actively think about a woman and how she feels about your behavior. It’s really that simple.

That girl you want to be with? Flirt with her, *for* her. Not for your buddies, for your dad, or for your dick.… Read the rest “How do I deal with the hesitancy to flirt with women due to the trending idea that women have of men as being harassing/predatorial”

Hello, I was just wondering, do you think a girl (or anyone, really) should disclouse they’re a virgin before having any kind of sexual relationship? Cause I feel like it drives people away, but I also feel like not telling is misleading in some way?

Are you planning on being suddenly and inexplicably traumatized by the experience? If so, then sure, ‘fess up… a potential partner should know that you’re likely to be an inconsolable wreck after.

But if you’re just going to have well-lubricated, consensual sex with someone you aren’t ashamed to know, then child, get your fuck on and keep your (lack of) history to yourself.… Read the rest “Hello, I was just wondering, do you think a girl (or anyone, really) should disclouse they’re a virgin before having any kind of sexual relationship? Cause I feel like it drives people away, but I also feel like not telling is misleading in some way?”