First, being whole is cool. Being whole and loving it is cooler. Good for you.
And I’ll grant you, we probably beat that particular drum a bit more than strictly necessary, but, y’know… men.
With that said, not everyone who’s into broken things is into breaking things, there’s a continuum of meanings for “break” in this context, and as for building together… sometimes a girl plans the dream home she’ll construct with the man she loves, and sometimes she dreams of a man she admires who will put her to work remodeling the dump her parents bequeathed her.