One of my biggest fears is never being owned. I realize how that sounds. And I feel as though if I weren’t into kink and submissive I’d be fine. But I fear not being loved. I fear not being owned. I fear never being good enough for someone to want to spend time with. Freedom feels over rated. There is a comfort i crave, need, that comes with belonging to someone and not being in control. Taking care of them. It feels heart shattering to think I’ll never be enough to get that honor and privilege. I don’t know why I am telling you my fears. I guess you make me feel safe and normal.
How do you think you would have felt if you never had never had a submissive?
(submitted by: Anonymous)
I understand that fear, and you’re entitled to it. It’s scary to think you might never have an outlet for your service and sacrifice.
But you can’t let fear rule you. If you do, you’re going to make some incredibly stupid decisions in pursuit of comfort, and instead of being honored and privileged, you’ll wind up trapped and unfulfilled.
As for how I would have felt: I’ve never had anything but submissives, so I guess I would have felt alone.