Are you active in the kink scene near where you live ?
To my knowledge, there is no kink scene near where I live, and if there were, I promise you I would not participate… it’d just be a bunch of Surrendered Wives and their husbands, who believe that an inability to find the word “swinger” in the Bible clearly establishes that Jesus didn’t have an opinion about wife-swapping.
Frankly, they’d probably call it Sunday School.