How do I stop making myself an “equal” to my daddy when I’m not. I know I’m not his equal, I already feel like he has taken everything from me and made it his. I know I live to serve him. I thought I was. How do I do better
The most interesting part of this ask is in the negative space around it… an accusation has clearly been made, but you can’t even bear to repeat it. It’s just hanging there, an invisible weight bearing down upon you.
The most troubling part of this ask is that someone so thoroughly committed to service and surrender is forced to ask a stranger what she can do to be better… that shameful allegation clearly didn’t come with any meaningful direction. You’re wrong, but you’re not sure why, and no one’s told you how to be right.
Which suggests he’s either a lazy, facile fuck who’s seized upon your identity as a submissive and is gaslighting the hell out of you with it, or he’s a petulant, immature guy who can’t guide you toward success because he doesn’t comprehend the nature of his own discomfort and dissatisfaction.
So how do you do better? Expect more from the men you adore.