i love my boyfriend so much, and he is so gentle and kind with me. but that’s kind of the problem. i long to be manipulated. i want him to get into my head and convince me he’s the only one who wants me, i want him to drain me of my life and goals so i cling to him with everything i have. i want him to create a world that is just him. but he’s just nice so i have to do it all myself. i’ve told him all of this too but i think he sees it as some silly fantasy that he’d never be able to achieve. i guess he’s just not wired like that
(submitted by: Anonymous)
Oh dear.
- Last things first: correct, he’s not wired like that. He’s a gentle and kind person who can’t imagine a reality where you are a dependent, pathetic piece of garbage who wants to bathe in his abuse. He’s probably blind to what you are.
- You’re assuming that he fears he won’t be able to achieve what you want… what if he’s actually afraid he can? You’re looking for him to become the kind of man he’s been taught to never be. Have you ever considered the moral weight you’re asking someone to carry when you long to be broken? What do you offer that makes it worth him completely rethinking his concept of masculine decency?
- You want some very specific things that you’ll only get from someone who knows what he’s doing and is dedicated to doing it. You won’t get them from a nice young man who is probably very worried he will never be able to keep up with his obviously very perverted girlfriend.