Do you have any strong opinions on 10+ year age gap relationships?

Every girl I was involved with from eighteen ‘til my forties was older than me, anywhere from six months to fifteen years. Since then they’ve been younger, by decades. So I’ve seen it from multiple perspectives.

Given how complex and murky I know the reality to be, I can’t say I have strong opinions, but I have some random thoughts.… Read the rest “Do you have any strong opinions on 10+ year age gap relationships?”

What’s your opinion about girls on their period?

edgydroolybrat:

bedtimestoriesforbrokengirls:

They need heating pads and Hershey bars and head pats, and told to get their lazy, anxiety-ridden asses to the gyno if that shit ever becomes a persistent misery. ‘Cause girls are stupid enough to let their uteri fall out before they’ll make a fucking appointment to check for fibroids.

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How can I tell my boyfriend I was raped? The male who raped me told my boyfriend I cheated and I denied anything ever happened, but I want to tell him what really happened, but I’m terrified he will leave me.

Kiddo, why are you terrified he’ll leave you?

Someone assaulted you and then preemptively smeared you to put you on the defensive… that’s Acquaintance Rape 101, and you should be confident your man is smart enough to see that. You should be able to remind him of deviations in your behavior since the assault, and know that he was paying attention.… Read the rest “How can I tell my boyfriend I was raped? The male who raped me told my boyfriend I cheated and I denied anything ever happened, but I want to tell him what really happened, but I’m terrified he will leave me.”

If dominance doesn’t require violent masculinity, then: How are you defining dominance?

Every definition of dominance I’ve seen is dependent on violent masculinity, implicitly or explicitly. How can someone call themself a submissive if they aren’t at least a little attracted to violence (and by extension masculinity, since masculine virtues all involve capacity for violence cross-culturally)?

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This is a serious ask. I’m a woman in my late twenties. I’ve been on tumblr for a while. My question to you… do you think its possible for a younger dom to actually understand the concept? It just seems like a lot of these younger guys take on the role and I’m not sure it comes from a genuine place. Porn has certainly hasn’t had a very positive effect on young men, too. Theres no context behind some of the more hardcore stuff out there. I’m just a little put off by what I’m seeing. plz help.

Okay, first: yes, of course it’s possible. Clever, thoughtful young men exist, and as the Fox News audience demonstrates, old men are frequently dim-witted fuckwads. Age is a very coarse filter.

But how likely is it? It kind of depends on what you’re including under the umbrella of “the concept”.… Read the rest “This is a serious ask. I’m a woman in my late twenties. I’ve been on tumblr for a while. My question to you… do you think its possible for a younger dom to actually understand the concept? It just seems like a lot of these younger guys take on the role and I’m not sure it comes from a genuine place. Porn has certainly hasn’t had a very positive effect on young men, too. Theres no context behind some of the more hardcore stuff out there. I’m just a little put off by what I’m seeing. plz help.”

So I am new and my dom wanted to do anal. I told him that I do not do anal due to past trauma, and he told me that was stupid but he dropped the subject. Then a week later he had me tied up and was making jokes about how it would be easy to fuck my ass if he wanted to and I couldn’t stop him. I asked him to stop making jokes and then he tried to push into my ass as I was screaming my safe word… He got angry that I safeworded and I haven’t heard from him in a week… Did I do something wrong..?

  1. My little corner of the universe probably isn’t the best place for a newbie to be seeking counsel. I hope you’re also getting input from people who don’t traffic in blurred lines and tightrope walking.
  2. Let’s put the “no anal” limit aside for a moment.
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